quarter life crises...

I hope y’all had a wonderful Easter...wasn’t it just great to take a break and celebrate our Lord Jesus and all that he did for us so that we may be free! I had blessed and amazing time. Today was one of the most beautiful days I have ever had not only because the weather was great but also because I got to spent a whole day with some of my dearest friends. We headed out to Noordhoek and spent the day there enjoying the beach and chatting away, you know catching up...girls gotta catch up..hehe. As we got to talking we realized that we were having what we decided to call quarter life crises...lol...yeah I did say quarter life crises...I know y’all are thinking dayum girl that’s a nyowani (new one)!!

Quarter life crises includes some of the following things... you are in your twenties and are trying to discover who you really are, what your purpose in life is, are trying to change the kind of person you are into the type of person you want to be, are questioning the kind of relationships you have with some friends, the kind of person you are dating or should be dating, are wondering when Mr or Miss right is going to come along, are considering getting married or are married and have loads of issues, are feeling like you are in the wrong job and wondering if you should make a career change, are unemployed, are feeling like you are going through changes but are actually not sure in what direction, are at the crossroads and wondering which way to go, are needing financial miracles hehe, are confused. Basically you feel like you are driving along a one way street only that you are going in the opposite direction and all the cars are hooting at you...you can see in a distance the lane you should be taking only that there seems to be a big hole in the middle and you have no idea how you are ever going to get there. If you are experiencing any of the symptoms mentioned above...you are suffering from quarter life crises...lol

What I want you to know is firstly you are not the only one experiencing it. Have an honest conversation with some of your friends and you will discover that they are going through it too. They are thinking...where is my life headed. Secondly, it is okay to feel that way...it is the process of self discovery, it shows that you are growing up and are taking time to actually find out who you are, what makes you happy, who you should be hanging around with, or what you should invest in. If you do not question yourself or go through some difficult experiences, you never really grow in maturity. Does it suck..YES it sucks big time!....is it daunting...ABSOLUTELY...but you will get through it and when you do, you will be a better person for it.

Here are some important things to remember whilst you go through this season in your life:

1. It is okay to face such challenges, or question if you are really living the way that you should because this is how true change and self discovery come along.

2. You are not alone. Do not beat yourself up about it...it is absolutely normal to feel overwhelmed and wonder if you are making good decisions...give yourself a break.

3. Do not apologize for wanting to be a better you, or changing the social circles you hang around, or wanting to get a better job and and and....you need to become the person you were meant to be and to do this some things have to change, you may have to let go of certain habits, people, or jobs.

4. What does not kill you will only make you stronger. Whatever challenges you may be facing remember that when they are over, you would have learnt some lessons that will stick with you for life.

5. Be still and know that He is God. Spend some time meditating and reading the word. Sometimes when things around you seem to be going crazy or too fast all you need to do is just stand still and let God do His work in you. We know He has a purpose and a plan for each of our lives. Allow Him to direct your footsteps in every aspect of your life...be it at work, socially, in your family, your dreams, love life, whatever the case may be put you trust in Him and He will see you through it. Read Matthew 6: 25 – 34 where God tells us not to worry about anything...what we will eat, drink or wear but to seek His kingdom first and all these things shall be added unto us.

Be Blessed

with love...tafie