it never rains...it pours!!

I have missed y’all...what a month it’s been! So much to talk about...I was thinking last night about the statement it never rains, it pours!! When things seem to go bad, they just seem to all go bad at the same time. It is so easy at this time to feel like the world is against you or that luck is against you or that you are doomed to fail or that the Lord has forsaken you and a whole lot of other unpleasant feelings that may arise when you are going through a hard time. It may help to look at things from a different perspective when all hell seems to be breaking loose.

Do not look at a series of bad events as if they are joint events... yes I did just pull up some probability phrases...LOL!...how I miss maths!! Anyway do not link up all bad events as if they are related because this will definitely make you feel like a victim. For example, say you are struggling to get a job, you are constantly broke, your mother falls sick, a close friend doesn’t come through when you need them the most, and your car breaks down all in a short space of time. Now here is what the normal human mind will think...”Oh my God my life is falling apart, I’m unemployed which means I’m constantly broke and now my mom is ill and my friends are not there when I need them the most and now from nowhere my car breaks down and I have to pay for it to get fixed such unexpected expenses, I have such bad luck and nothing I try seems to be working”. This will usually make it hard for you to get out of bed and try again. Instead look at every unfortunate event as just that an independent unfortunate event and deal with it as such. The fact that your girlfriend is cheating doesn’t make your car break down; do not look at these as if they depend on each other. Learn to deal with each situation without getting emotional about everything else that may not be going well in your life. This will help you to not have an emotional breakdown.

Now I realise that the point I just made is very difficult to put to practise because it is natural to feel overwhelmed. It takes effort to think positively. I suggest you get into the habit of seeing the silver lining in every dark cloud. A good friend of mine always asks me what the silver lining is when i am going through a tough time. She encourages me to look at what is right with the picture no matter how small. Try it; it really helps to keep you focused.

Self pity easily arises when one is stressed. You look at yourself and think my word how is one person supposed to handle all these issues and you start to feel sorry for yourself. Emotions are great and we need them but sometimes if we do not keep them in check they can make situations worse than they are. They can easily take you from being in control of a situation to a situation being in control of you so you need to watch out. The fact that someone isn’t there for you doesn’t mean that you are not good enough, it means that that person has a problem, the fact that your car broke down doesn’t mean you are not blessed, it means that cars are gadgets and sometimes their parts fall apart.

Praise silences the enemy. I remember a priest who preached to us a sometime ago said that we should always praise the Lord in all situations especially when we do not feel like it. When you praise God especially in difficult situations you silence the enemy who is there to make you feel like you are not good enough, like things will never work out for you, like you are a failure, like you are forsaken...praise is a declaration of your faith, it is an exaltation of God, it is worship. The Lord loves you that is a fact, He works all things for the good of those He loves, that’s a fact...challenges will be there that’s a fact but it does not mean that the Lord will not be with you or that He will forsake you.

Hang in there a little while longer, things will begin to look up you will see!

Be Blessed

with love...tafie