words of your mouth

Since our last topic was on thinking right, I thought it would be appropriate to discuss words of our mouths. Just like thoughts, words have power, creative power. Many of us are unaware of the things that we call into our lives by not watching what we say.
If you want your life to continue changing for the better, you not only need to think positively but you have to start speaking positively too. For instance do not say “I am unlucky”, or “Things usually do not work out for me” for that is what you will experience time and again. Rather start saying, “All things work together for good for me”. “I do not know how but I know the outcome of this will be great”. Think it, Believe it and Say it.

When you start to speak like this many people will be shocked, some will even think you are full of yourself but that is far from the truth. You will just be exercising your creative power to bring good things into your life. One of my dearest friends is wedding in a couple of months. A number of people have asked her how the wedding planning stress is. To this she replies “I do not have wedding planning stress”. Many people have said she is crazy but the truth is she is the most relaxed bride-to-be I have seen. She speaks positively about her wedding, and as a result she hasn’t experienced any stress, everything is falling into place for her because she refuses to speak negatively about it. She continues to say, “People, this is a stress free wedding” and thus far she doesn’t know any other experience.

Just like planning a wedding, there are many things that people believe are naturally stressful. Examples include work, relationships, following your dreams. How many times have you heard people say, “Oh this relationship is complicated, men/women are stressful”. Then when the relationships become stressful we wonder why we are so unlucky. Could it be because we spoke it into our lives?

Growing up every time I said something negative my mom would look at me and say, “Words of your mouth come true so be careful what you say”. It may sound really cliché but take a minute to look at your life or at the lives of those around you and see how powerful words are in their lives. People who are struggling in one area and can’t seem to get a breakthrough, watch them closely and listen to the words they say about their life situation. You may hear them say, “My depression never goes away”, or they may say, “Things never work out good for people like me”, or they may say, “I’m always broke”, or “I’m not good enough to do such and such a task” and guess what, it will be true! If we continue to call forth negativity, it will keep coming our way. Again I don’t know why as humans we tend to focus on the negative. In fact we tend to shun away positive minded people; we think the things they say are too good to be true. But maybe if we thought and spoke a little more positively; maybe we would catch a break. Because, in the same way we spent time saying negative things, we could use that time to speak positivity into our lives. This year I have resolved to trying positive speech because as Donald Trump says, “As long as you are thinking, you might as well think big”. As long as I am speaking, I might as well speak life. If I can spend hours speaking about how something may not work out, I could equally spend that time looking at what is positive about that situation. Think about it.

We are all a work in progress, don’t feel discouraged if you can’t seem to always be thinking and speaking positive. The most important thing is to get started. Take baby steps. In time you will see how positive speech will come naturally to you. It takes practice; it just does not happen overnight so make a conscious decision to do it daily.

I don’t know about you but I like positive speakers. I am drawn to them. They are the kind of people I like to have conversations with because they will always have something encouraging to say. Even if they don’t have an encouraging statement, they don’t leave you feeling drained of all energy as negative speakers tend to do. Check your reaction next time you have some positive news, or are looking for advice on a particular issue, see who will be the first person you will call. I can bet you it is someone that you know to be a positive minded speaker. Why? Because they encourage you to keep going after your dreams, they help you stand strong in trying times and you know you will come out of the other side much stronger because you have seen how their lives have moved from one positive season to another.

When you experience a tough time it is very hard to speak positively. A close cousin of mine was found dead in her room this last week. We have no idea what happened to her. In fact I was communicating with her a few days before she passed away and she was doing great. When I heard the news of her passing I was once again reminded of how fragile life is and how we ought to focus on what gets us to be better, more joyful, more loving, more truthful, more successful, more enlightened. When I look at her life and consider the kind of person she was, I can’t help but smile because she always spoke from a place of love. She would always go the extra mile to say an encouraging word. I admit many times I wondered how she could always be so full of positive speech. I remember her words to me were, “Sis, speak well of yourself, you are amazing, I can see that and so should you. Speak words of what you want to see happening in your life and it will come to you. How else are great things supposed to happen in your life if you do not call them to yourself?”
R.I.P Kuda. You are loved and missed beyond any words could ever express!

As I was thinking about this topic, I came across the following quotations. Check them out, I hope they will help you as much as they have helped me to have a more positive attitude towards life.

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes”. ~William James

“A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes”. ~Hugh Downs

“Say you are well, or all is well with you,
And God shall hear your words and make them true”.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox

“I have learned to use the word impossible with the greatest caution”. ~Wernher von Braun

“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out”. ~Art Linkletter

“I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else”. ~Winston Churchill

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful”. ~Buddha

Be Blessed,
with love…tafie